” I am the gate.” John 10:9

The following single talks are doorways into understanding our interior life. They are Christ-centered, stand alone, but are also combined with other materials, to create the longer day, weekend, or mission RETREATS.

THE WAY OF DESIRE
With the Four Levels of Happiness
The Four Levels of Happiness (aka the Four Levels of Desire) is an ancient philosophy considered by the likes of Augustine and Aquinas as a way to understand the deepest longings of the human heart . . . and why we get so lost in them.  By identifying what we most desire, and what we try to do to get it, we discover the truth about our inner life with God and others.  This simple but powerful concept can help in understanding your interior life and it’s also easy enough to teach your children! With it you’ll learn:  How and why you struggle with unhappiness in your relationships, what level of happiness has most control over you,  how to identify your default responses to unhappiness, common sense solutions to improving all your relationships, how to find greater direction, purpose, peace, and joy.

 

THE WAY OF THE HEART
With the Timeless Teaching of The Four Temperaments
People put heart into their relationships in four different ways, long identified as the classic “Four Temperaments”. These are one of the many mysterious ways we’re made in God’s image, with some people naturally reflect his robust, explosive power; others his quiet, hidden ways. It’s not pop-psychology; it’s real! Rose is a recognized expert on the temperament nuances, natural blends, birth order, masking, and more. The study of personalitoes is fun, funny, and amazingly accurate. It’s suited to any group—at home, work ,or church—because wherever there are people, there are personalities! You’ll learn how to: understand and identify the unique gifts of each temperament, why strengths turn to weaknesses, understand natural blends, birth order, and masking, meet the deepest emotional needs for each type, speak “the language of the heart” for each type, and more.

 

THE WAY OF THE BRIDE
With the Seven Stages of Romance
Every romantic relationship progresses through (or gets stuck in one of) seven stages as it advances toward the fullness of love. These stages are also those of the interior life where the soul, wooed by God, is like a bride in its openness and acceptance of him, or–if it fails to trust him–its fear and rejection. Drawn from the powerful spousal imagery in Scripture, and the audience’s personal experiences, this talk is for everyone. It’s a life-changing concept  with a surprise ending! You’ll learn how to: recognize the movements of “marriage” in all of creation, understand the spousal analogy in Scripture, identify where you’re stuck in your relationship with God and others, let go of counterfeit loves, see the interior (spiritual) life as a bride – even if you’re a man,  take a bold, new look at Catholic Church teachings on love, sex, marriage … and liturgy!

 

THE WAY OF THE BRIDEGROOM
With the Four Marks of True Love
The “Way of the Bride” reveals how the soul is to love the Bridegroom; the “Way of the Bridegroom” reveals the mysterious and beautiful  marks of his perfect love for the soul. This type of love has been forgotten or, worse, reinvented and even rejected. Drawing from Scripture’s spousal analogy and Pope St. John Paul II’s “Theology of the Body”, these four marks are easy to remember and can (and should) be taught to your children.  The message is for both men and women so they can understand the true nature of love, marriage, sex, and sacrifice. You’ll learn: the whys behind Church teachings on sexual morality, how to know if you are loving someone or using them, how to know if you are being used, how a man can best imitate Christ in his family and community, what distinguishes authentic marriage from other relationships, what must be present for a marriage bond to be considered “valid”,  how the Catholic Church can declare an attempted marriage “invalid”, and more.

 

THE WAY OF THE RABBI
With the Four Rules of Relationship
Whenever anyone encountered, questioned, or challenged Christ, he responded to them in the same four, wise ways that considered the whole person, had their best interest in mind, and showed respect and love—even if he turned tables or called them hypocrites. This charming but effective presentation draws from the story in Matthew of the rich young ruler who wanted to know the way to eternal life.  It’s simple, easy to remember, it will change your relationships, and it’s something you can teach anyone–even young children. Whether you are a leader at home, at school, work, or in the parish community, this presentation will show you how to: imitate Christ in dealing with others in four simple, easy-to-remember ways, listen the way others want to be heard,  “hear” others with your heart,  take charge in ways to which others will respond,  easily explain complex truths to others,  respect and honor even those who may be attacking you, rightly incorporate the principle of “detachment” in your life, free yourself from unhealthy relationship patterns.

 

THE WAY OF THE CROSS
With the Four Consolations of the Cross
Jesus’ suffering saves us and, if we are united to him, our suffering is an inevitable part of the interior life. The Church teaches that bearing injustices and pain in union with Jesus has great redemptive power for ourselves and others. In it we we can come under the easy yoke and help the Lord continue his saving work. If we’ll bear suffering well, peace and joy will come from the pain.  Based on the steps Jesus took along the Via Dolorosa, and who he met along the way, you’ll learn: to see suffering in a new light,  find peace and even joy in the midst of relationship turmoil,  understand the value of the cross,  reconcile mercy and justice (which are not opposed), find freedom from long-standing bitterness,  let go of life-long fears and burdens, and more.