After divorce, where can I go for help? 

If we are the Body of Christ, that means the people in your local church should be his arms, his legs, and his smile for you.

• Check to see if there are divorce healing workshops or programs in your parish,
• Go to the parish website for suggested resources,
• Find a Catholic therapist or coach,
• Talk to a wise and experienced deacon or priest.

More often than not, divorce reveals deep heart wounds that you may have carried from your childhood into the marriage. Full healing from divorce might mean attention to other such issues.  Look for a reputable Catholic psychotherapist or life coach in your area (www.CatholicTherapists.com ) but be smart: not all counselors are trustworthy when it comes to believing and teaching the fullness of the Catholic faith. However, God can use anyone of His choosing to help you, so keep asking Him for direction.  Many counselors offer internet or telephone support.

Call your best friend or family member who has an open heart, a listening ear, and who’s walking closely with Our Lord. Avoid advice from those who tell you to get over it, to move on, or to take your ex for all he or she is worth in court.  Especially ignore the counsel to go find a new relationship.

Don’t think you need some type of counseling? Do-it-yourself is faster in the grocery store and saves money on car washes but might be foolish when it comes to healing from divorce.

References:

Bible: Fools think the way they go is straight, the wise listens to advice. Prov 12:15

Catechism: God wills the interdependence of creatures . . . to complete each other, in the service of each other.  CCC 340

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