{"id":6833,"date":"2020-01-21T12:02:19","date_gmt":"2020-01-21T12:02:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/rosesweet.com\/?p=6833"},"modified":"2022-07-16T01:12:48","modified_gmt":"2022-07-16T01:12:48","slug":"short-list-to-loving-your-wife","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/rosesweet.com\/short-list-to-loving-your-wife\/","title":{"rendered":"Short List to Loving Your Wife"},"content":{"rendered":"
What does any wife really<\/em> want?\u00a0 Whether she can voice it fully, or even admit it, her desire is:<\/p>\n To be loved by her husband like Jesus loves his Bride<\/em><\/p>\n When my husband is in a good mood, he\u2019ll often tell me, \u201cHoney, I just want YOU to be happy.\u201d\u00a0 I usually roll my eyes, laugh, and say, \u201cOkay, prove it!\u201d\u00a0 Then his eyes will get big, he\u2019ll rush over to kiss me . . . \u00a0and I\u2019ll hand him the broom and dustpan.\u00a0 I think we grew up watching too many sit-com marriages.<\/p>\n The reality is that everyone knows true love when they receive it\u2014and they know the counterfeit. Wives don\u2019t always trust their husbands when the gestures of love are measured, performed out of resentful “duty”, put off for a more convenient time, or have conditions placed on them.\u00a0 Their lack of trust is well-founded; those kinds of acts are not love<\/em>.<\/p>\n Ladies, the men we married do love us, and most are happy when it comes written down and a shortlist.<\/p>\n \u201cJust tell me what you WANT, honey, and I\u2019ll do it!\u201d A happy marriage sets the tone for the whole household.\u00a0 And it begins with how Dad loves Mom. But past the tire changes or taking out the trash, wives want real love.<\/p>\n So what does real love look like? In St. John Paul II\u2019s powerful work, Love and Responsibility,<\/em> and his \u201cTheology of the Body\u201d, we are given the shortlist. Both are studies in the specifics of how God loves his people, how Christ loves his Bride. Both draw from Scripture\u2019s “spousal analogy.”<\/p>\n Earthly marriage stems from, points to, and should be caught up into the beauty of the eternal heavenly marriage. Knowing how to love rightly is the way we begin to taste a little of that heaven right here on earth.\u00a0 Following the Lord, this is how husbands are to love their wives<\/em>:<\/p>\n \u201cNo one takes it from me, but I lay [my life] down on my own.\u201d [John 10:18<\/a>]\nWhen a husband is operating out of fear of not getting his way, or bound up with resentment that he has to suffer, or is trapped in selfish habits of laziness, lust, or more, he is NOT FREE.\u00a0 If he chooses marriage or stays married because he is afraid of being alone, hard work, financial loss, or not having sex, then he is not truly FREE. He can use his wife and marriage as a social cover or security blanket. He cannot love his spouse or anyone when he is thus bound. And wives know it.<\/p>\n This is my body, which will be given for you<\/em>. [Luke 22:19<\/a>]\nMeasured \u201clove\u201d isn\u2019t love. I’ve come to resist the word “compromise” because it is still calculated. It has its place in some areas but, in relationships, it can be a stubborn grasp on what one thinks they need or deserve. Unnecessary protection of oneself from difficulties, deprivation, or suffering is like a condom on the heart. It gives and receives only partially, holding back the fullness that underlies real love. The barrier of selfishness prevents divine life from being transmitted and growing in the marriage. Emotional and spiritual sterility in a marriage starts in the heart.<\/p>\nWives know fake love when they see it<\/strong><\/h5>\n
Husbands DO just want their wives to be happy!<\/strong><\/h5>\n
\n\u201cI can\u2019t read your mind, woman . . . what is it you want?\u201d<\/p>\nJesus gives us the list<\/strong><\/h5>\n
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Jesus\u2019 love for his Bride is FREE<\/strong><\/h5>\n
Jesus\u2019 love for his Bride is FULL<\/strong><\/h5>\n
Jesus\u2019 love for his Bride is FAITHFUL<\/strong><\/h5>\n