{"id":6787,"date":"2019-04-15T15:58:16","date_gmt":"2019-04-15T15:58:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/rosesweet.com\/?p=6787"},"modified":"2023-04-15T17:09:53","modified_gmt":"2023-04-15T17:09:53","slug":"what-is-annulment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/rosesweet.com\/what-is-annulment\/","title":{"rendered":"Was there a true marital bond?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Do you think the Catholic process of \u201cannulment\u201d is ridiculous?<\/p>\n

Some do, and I admit I didn\u2019t understand, either. I had no idea how just, biblical, practical, rational, and beautiful it truly is.<\/p>\n

Annulment is not what you think it is<\/b><\/h4>\n

It is an always sensible and sometimes rigorous process whereby the Church guides wedded parties to examine what happened when their marriage failed. They look for some serious problems that were there from the start. Did those issues stand in the way of a true marriage bond from forming? The process is meant to protect the deepest dignity of the human person, uphold the truth, honor the words of Christ, and is a stalwart defense of the sanctity and permanence of marriage.<\/p>\n

But isn\u2019t it just \u201cCatholic divorce?\u201d
\n<\/em>Doesn\u2019t it make the children illegitimate?
\n<\/em>Doesn\u2019t it say there NEVER was a marriage?<\/em><\/p>\n

NO.NO.NO. Fake news.<\/p>\n

Some impediments were there from the start<\/b><\/h4>\n

I knew a young, sweet, bubbly five-year-old who one day had trouble walking and it went downhill from there. Just two years later she died from a cancerous tumor pressing on her spine. After investigating and doing tests, doctors confirmed it had been there from the moment she was conceived. It just took those years, which seemed normal and healthy, for the hidden reality to show up and take over. She seemed healthy, but she was not.
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\nTragically, some marriages seem “real” but are not.<\/em> They are legal, civilly valid in the eyes of the state, and look normal (maybe even \u201cperfect\u201d) from the outside. A couple can share deep and meaningful bonds, such as social, legal, financial, emotional, sexual, and parental. But in some way, the union was never able to have “lift-off” because there was no true marriage bond.<\/p>\n

Impediments are not always obvious<\/strong><\/h4>\n

In such cases, often no one looks for serious problems, no one suspects, or they looked the other way. Despite hope and dreams, hidden cancerous conditions can grow and ultimately burst like a tumor into a deadly divorce. It can take a few years or decades for that to happen. The Church knows there must be something more than a man, woman, and a civil marriage license for a true marriage bond<\/strong> (the way God designed it<\/em>) to come into being.<\/p>\n

The young woman who is pregnant, afraid, pressured by per parents, and even believes she may go to hell if she doesn\u2019t marry the cheating, womanizing bully who is the father? For years he shames, humiliates, and cheats on her. She tolerates it and distracts herself with the kids that come along. A<\/em> cancerous tumor that blocked a true marriage bond?<\/em><\/p>\n

A troubled and secretive young man who does not want to be gay and thinks marriage will somehow cure him? He marries his kind, sweet, and lonely friend and after the baby comes, he finds himself unable to stay away from other men. A cancerous\u00a0tumor blocking a true marriage bond?<\/em><\/p>\n

The young man whose father, grandfather, and uncles love their wives\u2014and take good financial care of them\u2014but who all have girlfriends on the side. He thinks this is normal and permitted and only intends to be \u201cfaithful\u201d when he wants. A cancerous tumor blocking a true marriage bond?<\/em><\/p>\n

A desperately lonely woman who marries the handsome, charming pot-smoking alcoholic, who keeps getting fired, hoping she can fix him? He marries her for a green card and, in an argument, spits in her face on their honeymoon. Is this a real\u00a0marriage<\/em>? *<\/p>\n

For better or worse is not always what we think<\/b><\/h4>\n

Sure, all marriages have difficulties, sadly some more than others. For better or worse, right? Yes, the Church believes for better or worse. But there are more than a few that are founded on such disordered, disastrous realities from the very beginning that when they say \u201cI do\u201d no true marriage bind comes into being. The Catholic Church acknowledges:<\/p>\n