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Can good ever come from evil?<\/h4>\n

This blog title will shock some, anger others, and make perfect sense to those who have come through it.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong; divorce is\u00a0horrid<\/em>, it violates the whole family, the poison of it reaches into every part of our community, and, yes, God hates it. (Malachi 2:16) But there\u2019s another part of this difficult reality:\u00a0from divorce can come great blessings, renewal, restoration, and even redemption.<\/strong>\u00a0That is precisely the GOOD NEWS of our faith. Our whole Christian religion is about a God who takes our mess and can bring something good, even greater than we had, from it.<\/p>\n

At the beginning of the Easter Vigil twice we heard this strange outburst (Felix Culpa):
\n\u201cO happy fault,<\/strong>
\nO necessary sin of Adam<\/strong>
\nwhich gained for us<\/strong>
\nso great a Redeemer!\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

The joy in these words can seem surprising. Why celebrate that Adam failed to intercede for and thus abandoned his wife Eve? Or that she fell for the smooth-talking liar and turned her back on God? And that all of creation has been violated and deeply damaged ever since? How can the Church in her liturgy even suggest that this was a happy day?<\/p>\n

We don’t celebrate evil<\/h4>\n

In the garden, God gave us the promise of a Redeemer. We received news that The Woman would crush the enemy\u2019s head. From the mind of a loving Father God to the lips of the prophets we have been given constant reassurance that great good would rise from the ashes of the fall. Good that no one could even imagine. And best of all, God took on flesh to come among us and give us his heart. His Sacred Heart.<\/em><\/p>\n

From that freely-given \u201cYes\u201d of the \u201cNew Eve\u201d (Mary\u2019s) and the \u201cNew Adam\u201d (Christ\u2019s) all of humanity now has a way back home. We can have an intimate union with God far surpassing what we would have had otherwise.<\/p>\n

We celebrate what God can do<\/h4>\n

So how does this relate to those who suffer the \u201cfall\u201d of divorce? People in our weekly \u201cSurviving Divorce\u201d<\/a>\u00a0support groups report some of the blessings and goods that came from their divorces:<\/p>\n

I woke up to life in general.<\/em>
\nI found God. I\u2019d been running from him for years.<\/em>
\nI rediscovered my faith and came back to the Church.<\/em>
\nI started going to confession again after thirty years.<\/em>
\nI started reading the bible and it\u2019s changed me!<\/em>
\nI got deeper into our faith and am on fire for God now.<\/em>
\nI\u2019m a much better Mom\/ Dad than I ever was.<\/em>
\nI spend more time with the kids than I ever did.<\/em>
\nI made a deep and healing apology to my spouse that was years overdue.<\/em>
\nI found the real meaning and power of forgiveness.<\/em>
\nIt made me face my addictions and get the help I\u2019d been avoiding.<\/em>
\nI stopped using the kids as a security blanket and made God my rock.<\/em>
\nI have been able to teach my kids so much wisdom through this.<\/em>
\nI started a divorce ministry in my parish and God\u2019s healing so many.<\/em>
\nI finally learned what the Church really teaches about marriage.<\/em>
\nI was really selfish and through this I\u2019ve learned how to love rightly<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Divorce can force you to wake up, grow up, clean up<\/h4>\n

If you\u2019re open to God\u2019s hand on your life, it will shake you to the core and knock scales off your eyes and great hope and healing can come from it. Some who are still deeply wounded will be angry\u2013and rightly so\u2013that it took divorce to bring about long-needed conversion. \u00a0Whether or not a person is the one who left, or had to leave, or was abandoned, every heart must stay open to God\u2019s healing touch and beautiful blessings\u00a0will<\/em>\u00a0flow from the wound and bless others nearby. Beauty will rise from the ashes. (Isaiah 61:1 -3)<\/p>\n

Christ knows all about being abandoned by his \u201cspouse\u201d the Bride (us). He bore unbearable pain in his sacred heart and from his pain came our redemption. From his death, we got life. So if you\u2019ve ever suffered any type of broken relationship\u2014and who hasn\u2019t?\u2014or unjust abandonment and rejection, you also know a little about \u201cdivorce\u201d and the graces, wisdom, maturity, healing, and even deeper love that can eventually come from it.<\/p>\n

You are never alone<\/h4>\n

If a relationship with a spouse, child, friend or family member seems to be falling apart, don\u2019t despair. Put your religion in that relationship<\/strong><\/span>, and remember (make present) the hope we have in him<\/em>. Do your best and trust that God will make good on his promises\u2014in his way and his time.<\/p>\n

Oh, happy day!<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":5251,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[68,72,66,71],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\nThe good thing about divorce - Rose Sweet<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/rosesweet.com\/the-good-thing-about-divorce\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"The good thing about divorce - Rose Sweet\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/rosesweet.com\/the-good-thing-about-divorce\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Rose Sweet\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2019-07-13T19:00:56+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2022-07-16T19:45:45+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/rosesweet.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/02\/DM_03242016_1763-small.jpg\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:width\" content=\"750\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:height\" content=\"499\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:type\" content=\"image\/jpeg\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Rose Sweet\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Rose Sweet\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"4 minutes\" \/>\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"The good thing about divorce - 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