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What would you do?<\/strong><\/h5>\n

I have a dear friend who is deeply, emotionally attached to her wardrobe.\u00a0 Growing up in the Great Depression, and having only three plain cotton dresses that came from a charity group, she\u2019s always defined success and self-worth as being able to have beautiful clothes with shoes to match every outfit. As a hard-working businesswoman most of her adult life she did have a closet full of some of the most elegant outfits I’ve ever seen . . . and fabulous footwear to match!<\/p>\n

She\u2019s in her nineties now. In recent years she\u2019s suffered a few minor strokes, had heart problems, and fallen down more than a few times and ended up in the emergency room. Before she moved in with her daughter, neighbors would volunteer to help her. One well-meaning friend offered to drive my friend to the store and buy a pair of safe, sensible shoes\u2014with rubber soles\u2014that would help keep her from falling down.\u00a0 My friend called me almost crying, \u201cThe shoes are so ugly! So today I did not wear them. I put on the cute ones that go with my slacks. I just want to be beautiful.\u201d<\/p>\n

Then she added quietly, \u201cI hope I don\u2019t fall.\u201d<\/p>\n

Put yourself in their shoes<\/strong><\/h5>\n

Uh-oh<\/em>. She\u2019s like a child now, pushing petulantly against the practical slickers mother wants her to wear in the rain. Her friend only wanted to help and is simply tired of taking her to the hospital. All I could do was listen and try to make her laugh.<\/p>\n

I said, “Well, if you slipped and fell and died because of wearing the cute shoes, at least those who stood over your dead body would remark at how well put together you were! And you would never be buried in ugly, sensible shoes!” She laughed.<\/p>\n

Our faith requires that we treat others the way we want to be treated; that we go the extra mile and even sacrifice our time, energy, and money to bring joy and delight to others\u2014even in the little things.\u00a0 So do the best you can.\u00a0 Don\u2019t take it personally when they are not happy\u2013it\u2019s probably not about you at all.<\/p>\n

Love isn’t always sensible<\/strong><\/h5>\n

Is there someone in your life, young or old, who is attached to some old pillow, sweater, slippers, or another object that represents something very dear to them?\u00a0 Don’t be so quick to talk them out of it or throw it in the trash.\u00a0 Don’t shame or correct them: let them keep it.<\/p>\n

Is there any other way to get the job done and still keep them happy?\u00a0 Maybe, maybe not. Is there another way to put your RELIGION into that RELATIONSHIP<\/span>?<\/p>\n

Then do it.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":5234,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[71],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\nUgly, sensible shoes - Rose Sweet<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Loving someone means listening with your heart. 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