{"id":3767,"date":"2016-02-23T11:29:51","date_gmt":"2016-02-23T11:29:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/rosesweet.com\/?p=3767"},"modified":"2022-07-16T01:23:46","modified_gmt":"2022-07-16T01:23:46","slug":"down-boy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/rosesweet.com\/down-boy\/","title":{"rendered":"Down, Boy!"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cRose, can you please come right away? I\u2019m in the hospital. They say I have bleeding on the brain.\u201d<\/p>\n

Oh, dear. After I finagled my way into the ICU, I found my sweet, eighty-something friend lying in bed with a bruised and swollen face, stitches in her forehead, wired to flashing and beeping monitors, and in tears as she told me her story.<\/p>\n

\u201cI was walking my terrier when another dog came by. He started barking and straining against his leash and I couldn\u2019t hold him. Finally, he made a powerful lunge toward the other dog and pulled me right down on the pavement.\u00a0I guess I blacked out because when I opened my eyes, neighbors were standing over me calling 9-1-1.\u201d<\/p>\n

My friend eventually healed but her story came to mind last week when a highly distressed man facing divorce was asking me for spiritual direction.<\/p>\n

Some people will keep taking us down
\n<\/strong>\u201cRose, I want to reconcile with her if at all possible.\u00a0 I don\u2019t want a divorce! But I also realize how angry I am at her for leaving us. I\u2019m furious!\u00a0 She wants us to just be friends. Friends? Really? She’s hurting our kids! I\u2019m not sure if I can forgive her! What should I tell her? Will she listen? I\u2019m losing control. How do I handle all these emotions?\u201d<\/p>\n

So, I told him the story of the terrible terrier.<\/p>\n

Even our emotions can take us down<\/strong>
\nLike beloved pets, our emotions belong to us, but we need to master them. They can sit in front of the fireplace and nap, frisk playfully around the yard, or even purr in contentment.\u00a0 But other times our emotions can bark at others, snap at their heels, and even attack when scared or angry. In those times our intellect and our will often need to keep our emotions on a short leash. In high-stress situations, some of us may even need a muzzle or, God forbid, a shock collar. We can\u2019t keep emotions locked up in a dark dungeon, but they must stay under our control.\u00a0 We shouldn\u2019t neglect, stuff, or deny emotions, either, but we also shouldn\u2019t indulge them or cater to their every demand.<\/p>\n

My neighbor, Karen, is a good example for us all.\u00a0 She keeps her dog, Barney, under control by making sure:<\/p>\n

He knows who is boss.<\/strong>
\nWe can remind ourselves in times of great emotional upheaval that we are in charge even if we don\u2019t feel like it at the moment. Self-control is one of the fruits of the Holy Spirit. Pray for it and practice it. Seek forgiveness when you lose it.<\/p>\n

He never gets too tired, stressed, or nervous.<\/strong>
\nThe old Weight Watchers motto to help people from binging was \u201cHALT! Never get too Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired.\u201d Those states predispose us to lose control mentally, emotionally, and physically. Karen knows her pet\u2019s unique signals; we need to stay in touch with what is bothering us, too. Maybe we just need a nap!<\/p>\n

She doesn\u2019t take him places where it will be almost impossible for him to go nuts.<\/strong>
\nCall it \u201cavoiding the near occasion of sin.\u201d Don\u2019t go places or be with people when high emotions can be triggered.\u00a0 If you do, bring that \u201cleash\u201d which are mechanisms for helping you rein it in.\u00a0 Walk away. Hang up. Say nothing. You don\u2019t have to attend every argument to which you are invited!\u00a0 Just stay home.<\/p>\n

She checks regularly for underlying health problems that need fixing.<\/strong>
\nWhen people attack, they are afraid or in pain. Others stuff their fears or resentments into a deep, dark place where cancerous tumors grow. Take your interior life\u2019s temperature. Check your emotional pulse.\u00a0\u00a0 Examine your conscience. Be honest. Uncover the root of your dark or raging emotions, get to confession, and get help if necessary.<\/p>\n

The Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC 1767) affirms that \u201cIn themselves, passions are neither good nor evil. They are morally qualified only to the extent that they engage reason and will.\u201d \u00a0So, what will the man holding the leash do with his feelings? Emotions can be taken up into the virtues or perverted by the vices. With God\u2019s grace, some skills, and practice, it\u2019s up to us.<\/p>\n

Be like Karen. Then you\u2019ll be mastering your emotions with assurance, and even joy, by \u201cPutting Your RELIGION into your RELATIONSHIPS.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":6816,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[72,71],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\nDown, Boy! - Rose Sweet<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Our wild, crazy, hidden emotions can ambush us, and others, when we least expect it. 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